Okay so I'm seeing this guy and I'm pretty sure I'm doing an okay job.
I ask him how footballs going -one of his passions.
- I support him while he's quitting smoking.
- the funny side. (Which he's told me I'm funny.)
- I show that I care about him (has told me I'm a caring person)
- he confides in me and I help make him feel better.
- I help please him sexually too.
I just don't see what I'm doing wrong? Is there something's that makes you automatically click and think yep I want to take her out? Am I doing something wrong? Missing something?
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Problem is it's just not meant to be, if it was, being with him and getting him to fall for you would be natural and effortless, not like "a job" you think you're doing okay at.
But either way nothing just clicks randomly, something has to change for a person to start seeing you differently, you can't expect to do the same thing over and over then randomly one day he just develops feelings for you, you come across as the type of person who tries to be really nice and do everything for a person they like, acting like that will get you taken advantage of.
Think of it like a job (I know earlier I said it shouldn't be, but this is just an analogy), if you work really hard for 15$ an hour and the boss knows that regardless of if you get a raise or not you'll still work just as hard and you'll never leave the company they might be nice and give you your well deserved raise, or they might take advantage of the fact that they can get you to do a 20$/h job for only 15, and that's the position you seem to be in. But a worker who refuses to stay with a company who doesn't pay them how they deserve to be paid will be properly paid. Even if they have to switch companies to do so.
Moral of the story, we as humans tend to take advantage of things we think will always be there for us and we really notice how much something means to us when we've
A) Lost it
B) Are going to lose it
C) Know there's a possibility of losing it
A person who's always at your beck & call and does anything to make you happy will make you happy, but they'll probably also not get the respect they deserve. People look for a partner who can somewhat "challenge" them (at times), not be their doormat/yes-man or yes-girl. You value things you have to work for more, if he never has to work for you/obtain you to a certain extent he'll probably never value you enough to be scared to lose you to the point he'll ditch every other girl for you as long as you do the same with guys for him.0
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