i am no beauty, but i do take pride on keeping my health and weight. therefore i give myself an average look overall.
i am in my late 30s, gave birth to 2 kids.
i weight 100 punds since i stopped growing with the 5 pound difference in winter time.
after 2 kids, i was up to 118 and now 112, which i am okay with... i certainly would like to go down to 110-105, but if i don't, i am not going to go crazy over it. i am 5ft and according to BMI, I am good.
i went on a date with a guy who told me he is 6'1 and around 250 pounds. only head shot on profile. i went anyway to give this guy a chance. being that we do have some stuff in common. the attraction really isn't there.
so i figure why not give it another try since he insisted in meeting up again... i told him i was doing fun, biking, excerising stuff with kids in city... his suggestion was to sit home and watch a movie on a second date...
i felt sick after reading what he suggested for a second date.
so tell me, i really don't have anything against fat people before, but now.. the life style and way of thinking is way off with the way i see things.
i suppose, its best that i turn him down... what do you guys think?
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Whether or not people want to admit it, their body is a reflection of their lifestyle. I'm an active gym goer myself and the work I put in is displayed on my body. I've had plenty of like situations you described with online dating. There's a shitload of girls taking face-only photos and overhead selfies to hide their weight. They then message the fit guys and get ignored then bitch and moan about how "guys want supermodels" when they really just don't want fatties.
I browsed around the dating sites a while back and had no desire to even message any of the girls on there. To my surprise a huge amount of the profiles were girls who still login yet have been on these sites for literally years. The rest were all fatties and some of them even bitch about "not wanting to be a twig" and how they want to eat what they want... written right there on the profile. Yet they'll message a guy like my with photos showing me working out in the gym. It's like they don't realize that I have an active healthy lifestyle... it just won't work!
This guy will continue to live this lifestyle and it won't be until he is stuck on a hospital bed dying realizing he shoulda made some life changes. Turn him down unless you wanna be pushing him in a wheelchair when he's in his 50's.0