So a few days ago I went on my first date with this guy that I met on an online dating site. He's really nice, really cute, and we have tons in common. We talked non-stop for 2 hours, and we've been texting non-stop since then- for the past three days. He asked me out for dinner in a couple days, and I'm super nervous.
See, I'm not a flirty, forthcoming person, and it takes me some time to be comfortable with someone. I'm just worried that he's gonna think I'm uninterested because I don't initiate a lot of stuff. Plus, I'm not a touchy-feely person either. I'm okay hugging if he initiates it, but kissing terrifies me. I'm kind of shy, and it just takes some time for me to get comfortable enough around someone to break the touch barrier. I need things to move slow because this is all so new to me, but for the first time ever, I'm actually embarrassed about my lack of experience.
Anyone have advice for me? Guys, would you be understanding about this if you liked a girl?
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Dating is terrifying for everyone. I've dated my whole life, I've had a really long relationship and short ones and today is still the day I go through all of that when I start a new one. The key is to take your time and let the other person know you're not looking to rush things.
Even people with a lot of dating experience need to adap to a new person: everything is new and unknown, even the kissing part is new for someone who kissed their whole life, because kissing Fernando will not be like kissing Carlos, I assure you. So it's not like you're having a real disadvantage here, just because you don't have experience.
He'll realize on his own that you want to take things slow, but if for some reason you think there's some doubts in the air, please talk about it. Talking things through is the solution to many things, I assure you. Good luck, it'll be alright :)1