Do I have mental problems? how can I get over this problem?
What Guys Said 1
It sounds like you have a bit of a social anxiety. Welcome to the world of dating. Its rife with social awkwardness, weird happenings, and generally wondering if you should or should do this or that. Then you spend days after wondering if the person thought you are weird or crazy.
You just have to take small steps, get out of your safe place and it will be ok. I mean you dont have to dive head first into things. but when it comes to date, go on double dates. That way there is a level of comfort there and people can save you if the date is going badly.
I am the same way in that I dont like going out all the time because it is mildly expensive and its also really really tedious after a while. I did all that years ago. I like to go out from time to time. but as I have gotten older I've become more of a home body.
Also remember this a guy is going to like you for all that you are. Not what he wants you to be. Id rather a girl tell me she has social anxieties and is willing to work around them, then let those anxieties rule her life.1
What Girls Said 1
You do not have mental problems. That is for one. I have worked in mental institutes where people have genuine problems. I think you are just in a slump of sorts... You obviously have friends, you mentioned them - your main concern should be building stronger friendships before going out on a date. Have a girl you can talk to about these things and she will soon become your best friend - I am sure she will want to talk to you about things as well..
When you are ready to go on a date, I recommend making it a double date with a girlfriend and her boyfriend or the guy you are seeings friend. This will make the atmosphere a lot more comfortable for you. Solo dates can be awkward in of themselves because you are still getting to know each other and don't have a lot to really talk about - which leads to quiet moments...
Get with your girlfriends and be around positive energy & then double date when you meet someone you are interested in. :)1
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