I have been dating for some months with this guy (I'm 24, he's 25) and he said he loves me and wants me. I love him so I thought it all sounds good.
That was to soon. He told me yesterday that he was in fake relationship with his best girl friend to please his parents and get them off his back (also towards their friends). Besides this he told me he has no time for a relationship because of school (he has adhd and is dyslexic). Also this best friend doesn't know about me nor have I met anyone in his life and he didn't show any intrest to meet any of mine (I only met one of his friends and that was through Skype). Also he told me they used to have something together but according to him there is really nothing between them now and that he wants me and not her.
Is it just me or is he just aiming for a friends with benefits relationship with me (I did make clear that I wasn't looking for that) and that the fake relationship isn't fake?
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Putting both perspectives into the equation I feel for both of you. For the male, I understand the pressure from the family, however from the friends I do not. A true friend voices their opinions, but should in the end respect his or her decision. A bff is dating a girl who I believe he shouldn't be dating, but he decided to date her anyway. I don't approve, but I respected his decision. Lastly, him being busy could be legit primarily because my life is very busy with numerous projects apart from school. Dating is something which I cannot do at the moment. I must ask though, if he has no time for a relationship, how can he be in a "fake" one? For you part, you did things completely fine. Personally I take a no bullshit approach to dating. If she can't go out, puts up excuses, I leave and never look back. I'm not complete cut throat however, I just would tell her I think it's best we move on. I do this for two reasons: 1) your time is limited, and 2) do you really want to go back and forth with these emotional battles over many months? Try to think what's best for both of you. I would have to say there is a 50/50 chance he wants FWB, primarily because of the pressure from his family and friends ( In my culture, family pressure is very influential).1