So I'm going to start with the first guy, we'll say his names Carl. "Carl" drinks a lot and he does smoke weed and cigerettes on occasion but so do I. I've hung out with "Carl" at a few parties and once with a bunch of his friends, we texted all the time in class and till late at night and we seemed to have a lot in common and we flirted a little bit but he's kind of shy and not very forward plus he's had plenty of opportunities to kiss me but he hasn't and recently he only texts me when he's drunk or if I text him first and it's always a boring convo that ends really quickly so I'm not sure if he likes me anymore!
The second guy we'll say his name is Steven. "Steven" is a sweetheart but he's had a lot of girlfriends and it makes me worried I might just be a rebound or something, we hang our way more often than me and "Carl" and he always hugs me and cuddles me and kisses me on the face and neck and we've made out twice. We seem to have some things in common but we don't really talk about it we mostly flirt a lot but he's really funny and nice. "Steven" also hangs out with all of my friends and isn't in to drugs or drinking like me or "Carl" and I don't want him to be. But recently he didn't invite me to a bonfire he was having but he invited his ex girlfriend (who I'm friends with, however she thinks I should go for him) but I'm worried that he might be trying to get her back. Also I recently addmited that I had feelings for him during a game of truth or dare which I really didn't want to do, but he didn't really seem to care he didn't blush or seem uncomfortable he just acted completely normal and when he was asked who he liked he said he had feelings for someone that we all didn't know and now I don't know what to do because I was starting to like "Steven" and now I don't think he likes me as much and I'm still not sure about "Carl" either I don't know who I should persue and who actually likes me! I'm 17 if that's useful, and any advice is appreciated! Thanks
- Should I go for "Carl"Vote A
- Should I go for "Steven"Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
Forget Both of these boys, sweetie. Carl is nothing but a drunk and a weed whacker, which is a bad influence on you. And with his Bad habits, his addictive antics, you will only end up an Enabler, never a girlfriend. Don't go down that beaten path with this guy... Guys like him end up in trouble all of their lives, and before he even hits the graduation podium, if he decides to get his diploma, he will be put in some jail cell or rehab for being this Problem child. All his love and kissy faces won't make this Matter at hand go away...
As far as Steven goes, it sounds as though he is Not into you as much as he May still be living in the past with the Other 'EX' half, and with that being said, if he decided to go back with her, which I am sure he is trying to do as I write this, This would leave you out in the cold and out of many a-----Bonfire.
You're only 17, take your time, make the right t choices in life who is better for you to be with. And a lush of a loser and a guy who is chasing a ghost from the past and puts you on the back burner, are surely No catch for you. You deserve more than what you are getting with two who are still wet behind the ears.
Good luck. xx0