I'm 22 and recently became a single mom. I was with my son's father for four years and we were two weeks away from getting married when he left. He started hanging out with new people at work (non of whom had kids or wives) and he decided he liked that life better. I truly didn't do anything. Even he will tell you that. Even though it hurt, I had been expecting it to happen so it wasn't that bad. At first I tried to be all optimistic and be like, well just because he didn't love us doesn't mean there isn't someone out there who will. But then I got to looking around and doing some research on guys feelings (hence how I found this website) and now I'm scared its not ever gonna happen. My son has autism and sometimes its a pain. But he can't help it. I was in a car wreck a few months ago and don't have complete use of my left arm. It works but it doesn't straighten out or bend in all the way. I can't help that either. On the plus side I have my own house free and clear. Its not the best but it works. I have a car and am in the process of going back to school once I decide on a subject. I'm honest and loyal and would never cheat or anything like that. And my sons father wouldn't be an issue because he only sees him about eight hours a month (his choice there's no custody battle or anything). I read some things that say guys wouldn't want to date a mom because they would come second to the child. I thought that was kind of ridiculous because they came first to their moms once. And yeah my childwill come first because I'm all he's got. But if the relationship got really serious and was going good, hopefully we could all 3 come at the same place with each other. I really want to be in a relationship again but I'm afraid no guys around my age (20-27ish) would have any interest in a girl with a 3yr old special needs child and a partial disability in her arm. I know those things aren't ideal but they're not in my control. So do I have any hope of having a man again?
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YES you have hopes. I personally don't give a damn about everything you said that "might" matter to other men.
A girl like you is a girl to marry! I can feel it just with the way you wrote your question. Stop being concerned about things that actually don't matter AT ALL. Screw what everyone thinks. You're not going to build your future with "everyone", you're going to build it with someone YOU love and that loves YOU.
Can you answer my question too? :)