If I like someone I'm going to want a relationship and I do get attached if I'm only seeing that person but if I keep my options open and talk to multiple guys it's easier for me to not be so interested/initiate/come off as needy. But is it messed up to go on dates with multiple guys? This wkend alone, 2 guys asked what I was up to and I kept it vague but was honest. They were able to figure out I was going on muliple dates and said I was being a player? It's not like I even do physical stuff with all of them either-- only if I'm really interested which is only one.
Also I don't know what it is but a lot of guys have been asking me out lately and I try to say yes to all of them to give them a chance or just hang out.
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I mean, you're just going out in public and talking with multiple men. It's not like you're having sex with multiple men, or letting multiple men pay for you, or doing anything to suggest that there's anything more than just a "friendly" interest there. There's nothing wrong with that.
Forgetting about what the guys think, are "you" okay with that? Do you think you would be able to develop feelings for any one of these guys that way, if you put yourself in that situation? Do you think that you maybe risk not developing feelings with the same depth that you would otherwise? Is that part of the goal of this approach? Are you maybe doing this to avoid coping with feeling hurt from some prior relationships?1