Just for the record, I've only had sex with 7 guys in my entire life.
I've had some say to me, " Oh let's continue this being friends." "I'm not the type to hit it and quit it." I had this one guy, who I knew from hs go on and on about how I'm the type of girl he would date, how we get along so well. He even started mentioning "signs" of why we should date.
Me, I never developed feelings for these guys nor was I trying to. I hate sharing my feelings with people because majority of the time, they assume wrong or they dismiss it. The whole of this point of this is, I hate when some guys talk about having more. I never talk about it or mention it. I don't expect it. However I hate when people bullshit me.
I know everyone do things like this. I'm only asking about some guys, because they are the main ones saying girls are suitable for hooking up/ being fuck buddies /fwb because of our "feelings."
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Well, I can't really answer you from experience.
A friend of mine is an escort, though. Some guys hire her for sex. Some guys hire her just to talk. And most guys hire her because they just want some female company that will somehow in some way involve sexual closeness. She's been doing it for about a year now, and what she realizes is that the clients who are just looking for sex and nothing but sex are in the very narrow minority. She's found that guys want the so-called "girlfriend experience," or just a general feeling of "closeness."
Basically, you can't feel "intimate" with yourself. You can give yourself sexual release, but you can't experience "intimacy" with yourself. You NEED another person to feel "intimate" with someone. Our brains are hard-wired to want to feel 'close" and "connected" with another human being. Sex is one of the main ways that happens, because it's generally not something we do with "EVERYONE." We're somewhat "selective" about "who" we let into our lives that way. It doesn't mean that it's ONLY ONE person, but only that it's not everyone we would say "hello" to on the street.
In the law, what defines "property" is the socially recognized right to "exclude others." By analogy, (i. e., cf.), "closeness" or "intimacy" only exists because of the fact that we "exclude" some people from experiencing that with us (e. g., we're not interested in experiencing that with them).
So, sometimes she finds that she naturally develops a faint and weak feeling of closeness and connection with a few of her clients, whereas other times, it's completely fake, and she has to inject positive meaning into the interaction and roleplay her experiences with another client or man in her life with this client. The point is, when she acts a certain way or says some things, it's because she understands that for most men, even sex isn't just about sex, it's about "feeling close and connected," and "accepted" by someone. THAT'S what they pay fore.1