I have a good friend, who I know is interested in me. I really enjoy his company, he is sportive, smart, nice and funny and all the good things... it's just that I am absolutely not attracted to him physically.
He is not bad looking, but the pure thought of making out or having sex with him makes me feel uneasy.
I know that look is not everything, but it just hinders me. Has anyone ever been in such a situation? How did you deal with it? You just stayed friends?
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Yep about 95% of my female friends feel this way. Unfortunately for you guys don't respond to rejected sexual advances like women do due to societal constructs. Girls rarely have to work for sex but they do have to work for finding a decent long lasting quality relationship. That's why me having long term non sexual female friends is easy. They may want to have sex with me but they know they can find sex somewhere else and still have me around so it's easy to move on. Guys however (at least in my experience) can find plenty of girls wanting a long term relationship but rarely find someone willing to risk having sex with them. Although the amount of sex is probably the same for guys and girls the perception of it is different. Girls think finding sex is easy finding commitment hard. Guys think finding commitment easy finding sex hard. Not everyone thinks this way but it's pretty common. Not because anything actually is difficult or easy that's just how people think. So having a guy stick around trying hard to be your friend that you aren't willing to have sex with eventually may not turn out too great. He may feel like he's being lead on just like a girl may feel like she's being used by a guy who just wants sex from her. What I do and what may help you is introducing him to other women. And not just suggesting it actually going and finding girls for him to meet and if and when he mentions a new girl be happy for him and encourage the relationship. But if you don't like the idea of that you need to do some soul searching because you probably aren't being honest with yourself. My ex tried to do this with me but would get really upset and sad when I actually showed interest in other people so make sure you truly don't want to date him first0