So I'm 19, in my second year of college I've never had a bf and basically any and every guy who talks to me, contacts me, meets me, tries to hook up with me and often I worry that if I don't they won't want me. If I say no they stop talking to me and it makes me feel worthless and ugly. I just want a boyfriend but every guy I want to date I mess things up by caving and hooking up. I'm a virgin though because I've always wanted to save myself for marriage but I was afraid that if I didn't do other stuff the guys I wanted wouldn't want me. However they just use me and end up leaving. My question is could someone teach me how to interact with guys with out them just using me because it hurts a lot and I just want someone to love me, I think I have good qualities and I'd do anything for anyone I love. I really just want to love and be loved but guys just get what they want and go. How do I make someone want to date me? How do I talk to guys? What do I say so they don't just make me a hook up? What do I do to get a boyfriend? guys what really sells you on a girl to make you want to date her?
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Where are you meeting these guys? If it's anything that begins with "drunken" (i. e. drunken frat parties, drunken dorm nights, concerts, what have you) then you're setting yourself up for failure. A lot of college guys - all college guys - are hormonal beasts, swimming in a lake of women who may not be hip to the ways of life.
If you want to find quality dating material, find it in class, at clubs, at the library, at meetup groups. Then go out on actual dates and get to know each other. Make a list of qualities that you want in your potential boyfriend, and dump guys who don't meet those expectations instead of bending your requirements to fit the guy.
Let those requirements evolve as you change and grow into a woman. As a teenager, you're not supposed to have everything figured out, so you just have to try with lots of people. Don't give in to pressure! A quality man will stick with you if he sees your potential as a friend and partner and not just plaything.0
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