My boyfriend and i got in an argument.. it was a HUGE argument , we been together for 4months... anyway we start yelling, cursing, he is mad as hell, he has anger issues, and he starts getting reeaall close, literally ganging up on me, mind you im 5'3 and he is 6'0, then i tried pushing him telling him to get off me because at this point he had me against the wall and i slapped the sh! t out of him... and in return he punched me in the face... i can take a punch but im not going to lie it hurt like hell... he goes in the bathroom, and ten minutes later comes out apologizing saying he's sorry and whatever, thisactually happened last night. Im at my friends house right now and i personally feel like i should forgive him... i was wrong as well for hitting him right?
Should i go back to him and forgive him?
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Get out now. This will get worse. And yes, this is at least partly your fault.
That last part will earn me a few thumbs down, but oh, well. Violence in relationships is never a good thing, regardless of where it comes from. So if your attitude is that a guy better not hit you, because you will hit him back, you have a problem with relationships. Relationships are not supposed to be about who can hit back the hardest. Save that for the football field or boxing ring.
Obviously, domestic violence is a hot topic today. Sometimes someone mentions that it goes both ways. There are women who batter their husbands or boyfriends. When that is suggested, some people - feminists, sociologists and the like - get angry and insist that this never happens. And how could it, since men are so much stronger than women? Well, it does. It is far less frequent than men beating women, but it happens. And one of the reasons that some women can do it is that most men were raised to believe that you do not hit a woman - ever, no matter what.
That is the way most of us were raised, and I for one think it is a good thing. There is no excuse for hitting a woman you are romantically involved in. Your boyfriend never heard this rule. He responds to tension in a relationship by using violence. The very fact that he moved closer to you after you asked him not to is violent. If he had you up against a wall, that was meant to be threatening. That is a tough position to be in, but "slapping him silly" was not the best way to deal with it.
He is going to continue to do violent things, and the pattern is for men to be violent, then be remorseful. So leave now. And do not find a new guy until you figure out why you attract violent ones, and seem to think that the solution is to hit them back. Until you figure that out, you are going to attract the same types of guys.6