Any time I ask a guy out or like a guy I get rejected. I live in a small town and am in highschool. Is it weird that I am that way or not?
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Nope, honestly rejection isn't that big of a deal. Actually, what I am more worried about is one day, some girl coming and leading me on. Now that's going to hurt, especially because I have never had a girl interested in me. But simple rejection, eh...
But I know that feel. High school is kind of like prison. You are confined to a small pool of people and the vast majority are shallow and/or insecure (I am the latter, so I am not down-talking anyone here). Life experience is lacking. The brain is still developing. From what I hear, it's not uncommon to become a lone wolf (like I am) and many people seem to struggle with dating or if they do start dating someone, that relationship is filled with problems. Overall, it just isn't a very good environment for dating.
What I have recently learned though is I think a better way to go about things is to just living your life and working towards being happy on your own, getting some friends, etc and instead of trying to look around and see which guys to ask out, to just accept that when the time is right, he will naturally walk into my life (originally this was written from a male first-person point of view, so I have adjusted it to fit in the style of giving advice).
I don't know, but you might just be trying to hard to find someone. That's what I have been doing for the past 7.5 months and I have decided to stop and just do the above because for one, from what I hear From what I hear, some people say that doing this is actually more likely to make you run into a COMPATIBLE partner because you're being yourself and then the girls you attract as a result are attracted to the true you so it all works out and makes sense and is aligned. Ever notice how taken people report getting hit on more? I think when we are actively looking for someone, for one we possibly give off needy/desperate vibes and/or we end up not being ourselves and at best this makes us end up with the wrong people and worst, you don't get any dates.1
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