I was born into a very tight knit Cuban family. And growing up you had to treat women with respect to ever even hope to see them again. It was the norm for me.
I started moving around the country in my early 20s. Up until then I had very successful realrinships with all kinda of women. Mostly white and Hispanic living in Miami FL. I moved to California and spent 6 years of my life untill I moved back. In those 6 years I had awrful relationships, games played, cheated on, disrespected ect. I even had one girl ask me why I treated her so well. It shocked me when she asked and most of my female friends at the time understood where she was coming from.
Now growing up I did bad things. I'm lucky today not to be in jail for those things. But I never flonted it. But it seems like the guys now days who flont the bad boy image ( most and which have never even got a speeding ticket) get most of the attention from women. Even if they are ugly.
Is this the world we live in now days? I hope not. One day I'll have a daughter and I would love for her to find a attractive respectable person.
It seems like the qualities a real man should have now days deters a lot of women. I hope I'm wrong. I'd love to hear everyone's opinion. And do you think race and where you are from plays a big roll.
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i dont think race plays a big part in it because i see this complaint from guys in all races. i think guys like you who are the chivalrous gentleman type need to be very careful about who you date. you just can't date the average americanized girl because even i'll admit, our society can be pretty fucked up.
im not sure how you choose the women you have dated in the past, but people who are sensitive and old fashioned have to be very careful about who they let into their lives. you can't date every girl and you have to get to know her and not be fooled by a pretty face and a "nice" persona. i actually know of girl versions of you and i would tell them the same thing.
try to find the nice, conservative girl who is usually a little quieter and shy. dont go for the bad chick that every guy wants and that flaunts it. not saying the conservative nice girls are ugly because a lot of them are cute, but they won't attract your attention off the bat because of their demeanor and style. those types of girls, if they dont have low self esteem and stay with guys who take advantage of them, typically get with guys like you and stay with them for a long time.
but yes this is the world we live in today. where thugs get all the women and hoes be winnin0