Just out of curiosity, how do you feel about gender roles? Do you like more traditional gender roles or do you think they don't matter? For example, the guy should pay for dates (paying for dates is not the issue I'm getting at just merely and example)
Gender roles, yes or no?
What Guys Said 17
Gender roles are arbitrary nonsense that restrict people from being themselves by making them feel a need to be someone they are not. Similar to the phenomenon in advertising (watch KILLING US SOFTLY 4 for more info) on how girls' self-worth is broken into shreds with false ideals to make them purchase products.
Except, we are doing this on a global scale by forcing people into being masculine or feminine, suppressing understanding between the two genders and creating nonsensical expectations through stereotypes that hold no value in our current society.
Gender roles are detrimental. They should be erased. Someone needs to get things done - there are tasks to be accomplished - but linking it to biological sex is arbitrary with no ground. If we get lost in silly ideas from ancient times, we will never reach true equality. We are all human, we should all as such.6
I don't really care, i just do whatever i want and try to help out. Yes i would try to be the gentlemen so like, hold the door for her to walk in first, pay for the date, etc. But then again i havnt been in a relationship yet but i'm just guessing this is how i would feel. How about yourself? :)1
I prefer more traditional gender roles. I believe men should be men, and women should be women.7
ill take either. couldn't care less. im only thinking about the girl at a certain point.2
Given that most young women earn just as much or more than young men, I'd say some gender roles like that are just outdated... how many young women date and consider, "hmm, does he seem like he'd support me and a family?"
That, and with how flakey many girls are, taking girls on any sort of pricey date until you know her fairly well is just a waste... I've read some girls gripe that coffee dates are lame/cheap, show no investment. Well, girls aren't a sure bet in the least, so why would a guy buy a girl dinner unless they've been going out for a bit? Unless he's loaded, that is, haha.0
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I am for gender roles1
Traditional gender roles make everyone happier.
Modern gender roles gives more power to women, but ultimately makes both men and women unhappier.
No matter what happens, differentiated gender behaviors will always exist, because men and women are fundamentally and irreversibly different.2
To an extent, I like them. Kind of annoys me how sponsoring traditional gender roles gets you labelled as a sexist or a weakling :/2
The year is 2014, no I don't believe in gender roles, I think that it's up to each gender whatever they want to do.2
Please no gender roles, please. this is the 21 century, I feel people are still living in the 1950s sometimes
( no offense ). But gender ones and unfair and sexist.2
Like it or not, I fit my gender role decently well, so I can't really deviate from it.
I wouldn't want her to be a COMPLETE stay at home mom though, I'd like my wife to do volunteer work or pursue her real passion in life part time.1
I prefer traditional gender roles to a point buy I don't won't to be made to feel of being used0
Paying for dates I am more against, because some women use men in order to get a free night out on the town. Not only does the guy lose money, he is having his emotions played with. If each gender payed their own way, it would eliminate that problem. I like other gender roles because it is a way to show respect to the man or woman you are with.
I know I will get a lot of hate for this, but in a relationship I think gender roles work better for most people. Both genders know what is expected of them, and are given the power to do it. In relationships without gender roles, it feels like both people are fighting for power while pushing responsibility off on the other person. Some couples don't need gender roles, but having them would stop a lot of fights, because men and women wouldn't constantly be worrying about their partner pushing more work on them, or the fact they may have a different standard for how to do something.0
What Girls Said 11
I don't think gender roles matter for me, personally. Some people prefer playing some gender roles which is fine, and some people don't, which is also fine. The problem I have with gender roles (or, well, more like the people who do this) is when people take it to the extreme and want to force someone to play/not play a certain gender role, without even asking the other person if they're ok with it. For instance, as a girl, forcing your date to pay for the date because he's a man. Or, as a man, forcing your girlfriend to stay at home and cook for you all day while you're at work. Or, as a parent, forcing your child to play with certain toys in order to be more masculine/more feminine/gender neutral. If a little boy wants to play with some toy cars, then for God's sake, let him. Don't take his cars away from him while stuffing a Barbie in his face. That won't automatically make him more happy and accepting. If anything it'll only push him away from "girly" toys, since those are the toys he's forced to play with. Aaand vice versa, the same goes for girls and "boyish" toys.
Basically, gender roles are cool and all as long as people get to choose whether they want to play these roles or not. Nobody should be forced to doing something they don't want to do, nobody should be forced to be someone they're not. That's my opinion.1
I'm a pretty equal person. I love when a guy opens the door for me and pays for the meal, but then I love to do it as well. I completely understand the gender roles thing, that men do employed work while women stay at home because then they're most likely doing the same amount of labor but I prefer equality. Not saying I beg for my salary to be as high/higher than men's. I don't really care about that. I just like equal ground and not having a man think he's higher than myself.1
I like some of them. In my relationship I pay for stuff more, but he cleans and cooks more. He opens doors for me and is masculine in some aspects, I'm feminine in some aspects. I like a mixture of traditional gender roles and modern day gender roles.1
Pansexual.. nuff said lol1
i don't really like gender roles. I'm the kind of girl who likes to pay for dinner1
No gender roles, at least in my family.0
I'm for choice0
I don't like gender roles. Never have and never will.1
I've never went out with a guy that didn't pay for the first date.0
For the most part both my Husband and I lean more toward the traditional way of things, but not completely. I do most of the housework and cooking and I organize and pay the bills, keep my garden. He takes care of yard work, vehicle repairs, home repairs, some cooking and dishes. We're married so obviously paying for dates and things isn't an issue. Our money is both of our money. Whenever we're going somewhere together, he always drives, and I love that :)2
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