I have it bad for 2 guys. But its driving me crazy on what to do.
1) joey. he's funny and sweet just amazing.. Says the sweetest things. But we never see eachother. Really bad anxiety and depression. If I don't text him back for awhile he flips out and anxietg kicks in but he's never threatened me.
2) tyler. he's really sweet. We have a lot in commom. he's understanding but he sometimes gets rough with me and I can't stand his family. He's also my neighbor. He can get really mean too.
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You need to drop them both and this is why:
You can't be in a co-dependent relationship where the guy is freaking out when you aren't able to answer, I can promise you that he's going to be either controlling or jealous, possibly both. It'll be emotionally draining and no one is happy in that kind of relationship. He might be a wonderful person but he needs to work on himself.
As for the second guy. It doesn't matter how sweet he is now, if he is physically or mentally abusive you need to get out. Don't ever begin something with someone like that, trust me, it can and probably will end badly. I cannot stress that enough. It doesn't matter how sweet he is and how much you think he is going to change, how he won't do it again... Just get out now.
These two guys have something in common which is that neither one of them are anywhere near ready to be in a stable relationship because they aren't stable. If I'm going on a limb here, it seems like you are drawn to people that need help? Thing is that you can't help these guys. In these cases the only thing you can do is to walk away, they have to want to change for themselves.
My advice is to walk away now, let them both work on themselves and maybe one day, if you haven't found a guy already, one of them are ready for a healthy, loving relationship.1