It seems like the first advice anyone gives is to move on. He hasn't called you it's time to move on. She flaked on your date move on. She didn't reply to your texts move on. He takes hours to reply to your text it's time to move on. She's leading you on move on. He's playing you move on. She's not putting in effort move on. And we get this over and over again but I can't help but wonder if continuously telling people to pull away from the people they like is really good advice. It seems wrong. I understand that clinging to a person can make them feel smothered but running away can make them feel abandoned. It's a different story when you've been blatantly told no but often times people are just scared and catastrophizing and when we continuously tell people to leave are we not just encouraging people to scare each other into not trusting anyone. How do you guys and girls feel about the advice to move on?
Why do we always advice people to leave? And do you think it's good advice?
What Girls Said 4
I know what you mean, really is quite frustrating. I don't even like venting to my friends about some issues that may arise with my boyfriend, even very minor ones, because it's almost a guarantee that their reply will be 'Why are you even with him, just break up.'
The fact that even close friends I've had for a long time feel the go-to solution is to break up with someone, even though you've been together for a long time. I feel like that's ridiculous, and a produce of people being simply far too lazy and/or idealistic in what they expect from a relationship. So if any issues shall shatter the expectations for perfect thanks to multiple Hollywood rom-coms, I guess he's not your knight in shining armour... -_-0
If I tell that to someone, it's because they're just sitting around wallowing in self pity and depression waiting for the other person to come back and fix them. When I say "move on", I really mean "get off your ass, get out of the house, go do something with your friends, and forget about them, at least for a while.0
What Guys Said 3
It's not good advice. We have astronomically high divorce rates because people "just move on" instead of bettering themselves, and sticking with a person.
it is creating a society of immature, broken people who have spread themselves across many "partners" simply because he, or she, was not "Perfect". To be discarded like trash.
So yes, I believe you are correct.0
I think it's very valid advice. Too often people fall for the "sunk cost" fallacy - they think that time already invested in the relationship that's going badly should be a factor in future decision making.0
because we aren't attached to the person like the person asking is which means our advise is more objective however i fee like most askers leave a lot of info out because they're feeling insecure and also if you aren't married then it really is easier to start fresh with someone who has no baggage or negative preconceptions of you0
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