I'm 21 and I don't think i'm ugly. My friends would make fun of me by calling me a pretty boy and i've had cute girls and even teachers tell me that i have a very attractive and warm smile. But yet, i've never had an experience in which a girl has liked me and i've known about it. My friends would always attract the girls without saying a word when we go out and meanwhile these same girls would completely ignore my existence. I'm a fairly shy guy around peopel i'm not familiar with but once they get to know me and i open up to them, i end up in the friendzone. It seems like the only type of girls i attract are 12-15 year olds. The girls in this age group would be trying to flirt with me and hitting on me and although its nice as it means i'm not ugly, its kinda frustrating that they are not a few years older
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When I was around 9 there were a few boys that liked me and I never knew until it was 3 years later. Maybe they like you but you just don't notice? People are very afraid of rejection. 12-15 year olds (people my age lol) are generally more confident because they didn't face rejection - people that are older, like 21 year olds, had faced rejection in their teenage years and might be a bit more conscious about showing their feelings. It might also be about how you behave. If you're shy at the start the people might take lack of eye contact as dislike - they might think you don't like them so you're not looking at them.
Try smiling and looking at girls you're interested in straight in the eye. It might help. (The phrase 'pretty boy' kind of made me curious about what you look like lol).
Remember: how you see your behaviour might not be the same as other people see it. What is shyness can be seen as hostility. Smiling is the best protection against having your emotions misread.1
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