I went on my bf phone and found some perverted stuff. It happened right before we started dating. So its not considered cheating. But it bothers me because I never thought he would do stuff like that. Its just not who I thought he was. Am I judging his past or just realizing he wasn't the guy I thought he was?
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Here's my opinion.
People will generally tell you "the past is the past, it should stay there." But in my experience, people who say this are usually naive idiots. You should NEVER ignore any aspect of a human being, it all comprises and makes you who you are today. Now, a I saying you should let it DEFINE him? No. So, here's what I would do if I were you.
Talk to him about it, gauge for YOURSELF what his answer means to you and how much impact is behind his words. Look him in the eye during his whole explanation. If you think he's being truthful, go with your head. If he's not, walk away.2