I've been reading up about this question a bit, and I have a few ideas on what this means in terms of our situation. To summarize:
after 4 weeks of dating (and the fact he asked for my phone number at the end of the first date):
-he asks (texts) 'may I ask you something? what are you "looking for right now?"
-I sorta bounced back the question, even though I did know: 'not exactly sure what you mean'
-reply: "I like you and going on dates with you but I'm not looking for anything serious right now... got out of serious relationship... not ready for anything more than casual. If not ok, I understand."
-my reply: I'm also not looking for anything serious... not looking for a fling either
-his reply: "I'm not looking for a fling either... I enjoy getting to know you... not emotionally ready for anything serious.
-my reply: I enjoy our time and hope it progresses naturally... wouldn't want to force/put labels on anything
-his reply: if you're cool with it, I hope we can continue to see each other
and then he proceeds to say he wants to plan something later this week after the Mon-Wed work rush. And it's true I'm not looking for anything serious yet either. However, if he was not interested in taking things further in the first place, why would he ask for my # or ask me out up until the 4th date and show signs of affection? Not trying to nitpick, but would appreciate some POVs!
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It's fine just being friends with someone :) Romantic relationships need a bedrock of solid friendship if they're to work, and if things don't progress, you've got a good friend out of the deal. Just be patient and enjoy your light-hearted time with him!1