I started talking to her via Tinder a few weeks ago and we really hit it off--I don't think I've ever had so much in common with any person ever. We spend quite a bit a time together and she really seems to enjoy being around me. So it kinda disturbed me when I began to notice this guy that kept coming up (mostly on social media).
I saw his Instagram page is still covered with photos of him and her, which made me think that maybe he's just not over her. Then after the second weekend we spent together, she unfollowed his IG after commenting on all his photos of her saying "delete" and on a couple photos said "I can't believe I was dating actual filth" and on one where he says "I love her", she put "lol you lied". So that made me feel better, but a couple days later all of her "delete" comments were gone and the pictures still remain.
I still felt good until she added me on Snapchat just over a week ago and her ex has been her top friend on there ever since and when I spent the night last weekend at her place, she left the room with her phone right beside me and it blew up with messages from him in which I saw a preview saying "is he staying over..."
After all that I still wasn't too concerned... we just spent the last four days together having a good time. Then as I was leaving her apartment after dropping her off yesterday, I noticed he was walking in the direction of her place. As of right now we have plans to get together Wednesday to prepare for our camping trip this weekend but with all this involvement with her ex, it makes me wonder if I'm just wasting my time.
What should I do, wonderful people of GAG?
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I feel so sorry for you mate. I really do because I was in the EXACT same situation with my ex (yes I dumped her because of him). I too had much in common with her for the first time in my life regarding partners and that was the only reason I was patient and shut my mouth for a very long time. When my patience was exhausted I messaged that prick to clear things and later the same day we Skyped all three together and all hell broke loose. She was an immature bitch in the end who couldn't decide between me and this loser. And YES he was a loser! Any 40 year old without a job, playing poker to make a living is a loser.
I don't want to be hard mate but I don't see a reason to continue that relationship. That prick will always get between you two. And if your gf says the usual ''we're just friends'' which is the biggest illusion girls have, don't fall for it. I learned it the hard way. Just dump her and find someone else.1