She is buying her 4th LV bag while he's going in debt. What do u do and what's ur game plan?
Men go broke taking girls out on dates to see if she's for him while a pretty girl is free loading dating all these guys. Thoughts?
What Girls Said 7
stop chasing after hot gold diggers and go after real women with substance, even if they may not look like models then? if the guy isn't willing to do that then I can't have much sympathy for him. no one is forcing him to go broke but he does it anyway to fulfill his own shallow needs. its not his fault that she can play the game better than him
and who still wears LV?0
No need to go to a really nice restaurant or something just for a first date. You can just go out for coffee or ice cream + a walk in the park. It's silly to invest a bunch of your funds in a girl you're still just getting to know.0
It's not cool that girls expect guys to pay for everything. It should always be half and half (unless maybe it's their birthday or something) and ya, girls have been taught that guys need to pay for everything so if you ask us to pay it can be a little off putting but if the girl can't look at it logically and realize it doesn't make ANY sense for half the relationship to pay for all of it then there's no point in even trying to continue seeing the person anyways!
In reality you shouldn't even have to ask us to pay half, it should just be obvious!2
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I wouldn't want a man to pay for me, I have my own money and pay my owe way, If he's allowing a girl to take advantage of him thats his own fault.0
I prefer to only date wealthy guys but I do have my own money and don't rely on a man to buy me material things. A present should be a gift from the heart and mean something to both of you.
That being said, I have noticed that guys sometimes feel very uncomfortable with a girl paying (this might be an age thing as well) and I have had to negotiate about money when in a relationship with a wealthy bf - he would pay for all restaurants whilst I would pay for take out, snacks, fast food, etc. It worked pretty well.
You have to start as you mean to go on and I would bring up paying for things fairly early on (at least after the 5th date) and judge her reaction. A good girl will be open to that and offer to meet you half way. A honey after the money will pull a face and think you're a cheap mofo. You should be able to tell from her reaction which type of girl she is.0
I met a lot of cheap guys who ask me to pay half and I met guys who never took me out. And when a guy actually paid and took me out he said it was not a date. Now the guy in dating does not take me out on dates he says we are dating but all we do is hang out. If you think spending money on a girl is going to get you laid you got another thing coming. Learn to recongnize who is using you and who is genuinely into you.0
What Guys Said 6
I saw this video a while back. One of the stats it gives is:
"Men spend $50 on a date while women spend less than $25.
But 65% of women spend $50 at least preparing for a date."
How many guys spend half as much time or money getting ready for dates as women? It evens out in most cases I'd say.
Besides almost every woman I've seen discuss this issue on this site says that they'd pay half (or the full price for every other date) after the third or fourth date so with most women it wouldn't be a long term issue. If it is, she might be using the guy. Ask for her to pay half and if she doesn't you can find another girl who will pay her way eventually (apparently that's most girls).3
Paying for dinners, lunch, coffee, while dating is okay in my eyes.
But buying her LV bags and other luxury vanity items? Hell no, why would you even think of doing that? I would only do that if I was in a serious and stable relationship.
I dated a girl once who asked me to buy her certain kinds of luxury items, first I thought it was a joke, but 2nd time she brought it up was in a Burberry shop. I smiled, and told her I would think about it. I dumped her the day after it happened.
She knew I could easily treat her with such things, and when she asked me to buy her that bag certain alarms went off in my head.2
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If a guy goes broke cause of a girl, then he's doing it wrong. You don't exactly need to always spend a lot of money during a date, there are other activities that doesn't really require much money.0
That would never happen to me, but about 99% of guys are suckers nowadays. Even guys who have no problem getting dates are acting thirsty and lame overrating females and inflating their pathetic egos.0
I think he is deluded for thinking it is his job to buy her stuff. If she isn't pulling her weight in the relationship then she isn't girlfriend material. Which means what you have is a guy trying to convince a girl to act like a prostitute. That doesn't make for a healthy relationship.1
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