I have a female friend whom I have never met in person (because we stay 100 miles apart). We met on a social networking site due to common group. We used to talk all kinds of stuff, including really personal ones, for more than a year.
She is extremely good looking (I have seen her pictures) and gets hit on by guys quite often (this is what she told me). But she has a tendency to go for jerks, and eventually is left emotionally hurt very soon. She claims she is a virgin, and doesn't want to lose it until she feels she is with the right guy.
I'm reasonably good looking myself, and do get hit on by girls occasionally, but nowhere close to her in terms of looks. Also, I'm not too keen on dating women just for the sake of it, so I have been single for almost 4 years now (after my previous long term relationship ended). And I'm a virgin as well. And yeah, I have this typical 'nice guy' image but I'm not boring or a pushover.
Neither of us had any feelings for each other. Then one day, during a casual chat, she said something like "I didn't accept that guy because he's just a friend, like you"). i was slightly taken aback, and asked her "Do you mean to say I'm just a friend, or am I in the friendzone?". To this, she responded :Of course you are, and I guess I'm in your friendzone too". I didn't know how to react. I told I obviously didn't have feelings for her at that point, but I always keep my options open so she wasn't in the friendzone. Then i asked her the reason for putting me in the friendzone and she replied "You're a bit too old for me (she's 23, I'm 27), and I prefer rough and masculine guys. You seem a bit too passive for my tastes". But then, she added this "Of course, if I met you in person, I'd probably end up liking you".
So now, what is this supposed to mean? I still don't have feelings for her, but I *may* develop them. If that happens, what are my chances, especially considering what she mentioned at the end (about meeting in person)?
Most Helpful Girl
We generally don't let guys out of the friend zone, this is correct, however this also applies pretty much to people we have met in real life. For people we only know through the internet, the rules can be different - we don't really get attatched because we don't really know them. She even said it would probably change if she met you in real life - so yes I think there is a possibility that you can move out of the friendzone0
Most Helpful Guy
Friendzone shouldn't bother you until you meet her. If she friendzones you after meeting up... leave her. Friendzone is essentially just using someone for the benefits of the emotional part of a relationship without the physical part (the part I assume most guys want). Life isn't Burger King, she can't have everything her way. Now if you meet up an hit it off, more power to you but it seems like she has a preconceived judgement of you, from your interactions online. It may be a bit hard to change her mind but I say go for it.0
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