As I have just turned 16, i'm reallt sad and frustrated as to why girls don't like me. I dress well, have an English accent, i'm funny and i'm well built (I've literally been hitting the gym for 4 months just to look better)
No matter how hard I try, i've been rejected 4 times. And those same girls that rejected me went for guys 10X uglier than I am. It makes me sad that a good moddest male like myself has to go through high school without girls paying any attention to me, or giving me a chance. I know i'm not outgoing, but being rejexted 4 times pretty much explains why I am not outgoing.
What am I doing wrong :(
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I was in high school once and I thought the same way. Most young men in high school think that having muscle and dressing nice will get them a girlfriend, but in reality that's not true. However I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I can't speak for the women or every guy, but I will say that dressing nice and having muscle isn't a bad thing and could be a plus. I want you to understand first that all women are different and are into different guys. Don't make your appearance your top priority. You should work on your personality and learn to be humorous (if you aren't already), because what I've learned from being with women is that making them laugh is a plus. It's not about dressing nice or having the muscle, it's about being interesting and making a girl want you. Being interesting doesn't mean you have to be outgoing, just be interesting in things that your passionate about. Also I'm not sure how you approached the women, but don't rush trying to get a girlfriend. It's all a process, getting a girlfriend is completely different that getting a date. Next time when you go up to a women who you think is beautiful, just be confident and say something like, "Hey, I saw you earlier today and I would have regretted it if I didn't come and say hi." or something along those lines. Ask her a open-ended question instead of a yes or no question, because then you could get a conversation out of it and learn what you two have in common. If it so happens that you reach a high in the conversation, just tell her that you think she's cool and that you two should hang out something doing [whatever you found that you had in common with her] and ask for her number. However, this doesn't mean you have a girlfriend, it just means she's giving you a chance to get her as a girlfriend. Going out on a date is testing whether or not your good enough to be with her. By the way, your not doing anything wrong, your just looking at the right place. Anyway I hope this helps!0