I've never been in a relationship or asked out and I sense this must be because I don't look over sexualized and maybe guys feel that I'm not really ready to give it up
The thing is it is starting to bother me, I would much rather wait for someone who I know loves me and whom I love and then once we're official and all have sex with him. The thing is it seems things don't happen this way an longer.
People date and have sex and then they seem to decide to stick together and have a relationship.
This annoys me all the more that lately I've been considering online dating and I don't want to feel pressured into sex if I get on dates with some guy, yet I know this can be a deal breaker because there are many girls out there who are not so stuck up about it.
So what do you suggest?
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Tell me about it. I'm almost 24 myself. It seems like sex is some normal thing that just "happens" for other people. It's something they don't seem to have to struggle with. "I think you're hot, you think I'm hot. Let's F*ck."
I can't say I'm totally against this. I'm all for people having more sex and not placing tons of restrictions on it. So long as it is safe sex, of course. I also hear this is more common in Europe. Having sex, then deciding if you want it to become a relationship.
I can understand both sides of what you're saying about it being a deal-breaker. On the one hand, as a guy, I know how frustrating it is to have a libido that blasts in as early as 10 years old, and have women look at you like you're some psychopath because you're interested. But it's unfair to want a woman to just "put out" right away.
What I've understood about girls I've dated is that their libido is quite driven by things like trust and emotional connections. That is a very good thing. I think it partially works this way for guys, too, but they aren't used to such intimate connections, so many abandon the idea altogether. The thing is that it takes TIME to develop these connections. Historically, everyone knew everyone else they interacted with pretty closely, so this wasn't an issue. These days, everyone is a Facebook stranger. Introverts and homebodys are utterly left in the dust waiting for connections to develop, feeling more abandoned than ever.
Now honestly, in most cases a girl doesn't need to look oversexualized once the guy knows she's interested. When you like a girl, you see through the clothing. That may sound creepy, but it means he's looking at you, not how you accessorize.
Also, you don't sound stuck up. "Stuck up", to me, is demonizing the idea that he is sexually interested, and making him run around trying to prove he is worthy of your greatness. Waiting for things to develop is not stuck up.0