Would you date a man 20 years older than you? I did and it ended badly.
He was manipulating me and his game was way better than guys my age. His game was so good that I didn't realize I was getting played until I started paying close attention to him.
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That has nothing to do with his age. That's just how manipulative people are.
I had a friend that was dating a guy that was 21 when she was 19. He was actually dumber than her, but that's not how manipulation works.
It starts off slowly with things like "I don't want you to go to that party without me, babe, can I come with you?" then "I don't want you wearing that it shows too much skin I should only be able to see that much of you honey", then over time that becomes "You aren't allowed to leave the house unless *I* tell you that you are" and "I don't want you going anywhere without me" and "You're having my baby because I don't trust you and I want to make SURE you're staying at home".
It's not an overnight thing.. it happens over the course of 6 months-years! Some abusive guys don't get their first hit in until after they've been with their wives for 10 years and they know they won't leave them.
Manipulative people know that if they start treating you like shit from the jump you're obviously going to leave them immediately so they don't do that. They work slowly and see how far you allow them to go before they move on.
Best thing you can do is keep your eyes peeled and watch out for little warning signs and pay close attention to your partner. I'm glad you noticed early on and got out, but yeah it can happen to someone of any age.1
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