I'm attracted to guys of other races rather then my own. I find guys of my race attractive, but I'm not head over heels for them. I've dated guys from my own race before, it's not something that I'm physically attracted to. Because, I've been told by my friends that I was being racist against my own race because of this. How is that possible? Does this physical unattraction make me racist?
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If you were only attracted to your race they wouldn't be calling you a racist, so I think your friends are being a little unfair.
Having preferences on physical attraction is inevitable. People don't accuse anyone for being prejudiced if they have preferred physical features within a race, so having a fancy for a certain skin color, accent, or other facial/body features that happen to be more common in one race than another doesn't seem any less appropriate.
If you're open to people of your own race, you might even find your "type" fluctuating back to them if you meet the right guy. When our physical preferences are adapting to our benefit, once we've met a great person, our preferences adapt until we're only attracted to people who look remarkably similar to the target of our affection. When working properly like this, its sort of a defense mechanism / incentive to make cheating less likely. If your attraction preferences are adaptable like this, you start off begin feeling attracted to whatever "type" seems natural, but in the end you'll be attracted to whatever guy treats you the best.0