Hey guys! So I refuse to ever let my boyfriend pay for anything. Even dates he takes me on. It just makes me feel horrible when people spend money on me or go out of their way to help me. Is this something I need to get over, or should I just stick with what I'm comfortable with?
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It depends. On one hand, you should never change who you are for someone else. But on the other hand, you shouldn't ignore it when you're doing something that make your significant other uncomfortable. Its important that you keep your independence, but is that good feeling worth the bad feeling your guy has? As a guy, I can say it is really, really important, (to a good / descent man), to feel like a good provider. It's emasculating when we don't feel like we're in that roll. We don't have to pay for every purchase, but we have to feel like we could - And even if we KNOW we CAN support you if we had to, its still not enough, knowing it won't help us feeling it. Especially if you're going to have a long term relationship, one of you has to ease up on your situation. Maybe he is asking his friends how to deal with you paying for yourself all the time, (or maybe he should).0