The question is pointed more so toward people with no kids . If you meet someone and they tell you they are divorced and they have kids is that an automatic turn off or will you go on another date anyway?
- No.. Since I don't have kids I won't date people w/ kidsVote A
- Even though I don't have kids It doesn't bother me that he/she may have kidsVote B
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Older divorced people tend to have children, so people their ages tend to expect it . However, young people like us expect other singles not to have children, so it can come as a shock when someone has one (or more) . It's a matter of maturity, really .
There some issues that could complicate a person's willingness to accept responsibility for someone else's children . Do the children have special needs ? Are there any problem children ? How many children are there ? I'm not saying that the answers to these questions should affect anyone, but people tend to be less willing to accept a situation that becomes less-than-ideal .
In general, young people are not inclined to want to take care of and pay for other people's children, especially when they can barely afford to pay their own debts and obligations (college loans, car loans, rent, etc . ) . Children are also major time commitments; there are a lot of different responsibilities that need attending-to in order to meet their needs . Some young people aren't willing to make that kind of sacrifice .
Many men won't be up to these tasks, but there are some, even at our age, that will love you for who you are, and will be happy to love and care for your children as well . You'll have to look much harder than the typical single woman, but on the other hand, it will be easy to weed out the people who would not be good matches .0