So, there is this girl that I really like and have been getting to know her for a couple of months. I wanted to ask her out just after I met her, but having made the mistake of getting too close too fast with other girls I decided to take some time, not wanting to mess things up with this girl. We talked and got to know each other, and things were going well, or so I thought.
Anyway I called her the other day and asked her out, thinking that the timing was right. She told me that she was really flattered that I had asked her, but that she had just started seeing someone else, and didn't want to complicate things. She also said that she didn't know where it was going to go with the other guy, and she sounded a bit disappointed that she couldn't go out with me.
So I have been driving myself insane, racking my brain trying to figure out what I could have done differently. The only thing I can think is that I waited too long and there is nothing I can do about that. Now that you have the background, here are my questions:
What do I do now? Obviously I want to respect what she has with this other guy, but at the same time I still care deeply about her. If I vanish from her life completely, then that's it- she's gone forever. If I stay in touch then I could risk getting friend-zoned. Combine that with the fact that I got a sense that she wished she could've gone out with me, and I have no idea what the best course of action is.
Thank you for reading this long question and taking the time to answer.
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It might not be just that you waited too long but she must have lost hope in you asking her out, so that could mean she didn't feel you flirting or showing interest. In the future its ok to not rush things emotionally but the enitial showing interest might need to be more forthcoming. Sadly all you can do at this point is stay in touch but if she asks you for friendzone type things its ok to say no. Unless she asks you for food id avoid it and you can stay in touch by asking her out for food as well, but chummy things like just a film or shopping will land you in the friendzone over time. Hopefully she might change her mind before things are too serious now that she knows you are interested1
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