So, I’m in a new relationship with this guy. And it’s obvious to me that he’s going through something bad. I think a friend of his died.
So I’ve known this guy for almost 2 years. We dated for about 3 months in the past, and ended up going our separate ways. Recently we got back together.
He told me that he would be willing to try at a relationship. I asked him if he was sure a few different times, and he kept saying yes. He said “I want to. I’ll try if you try.” He asked me to be his girlfriend, I said yes. He seemed happy about it. Before I left he asked me if he could see me the following night, I said yes.
The next day he never texted me to come over. So I decided to text him And he didn’t text me back until the next day... He told me that he had been busy. And I told him not to worry about. I didn’t bother him again after that, because I felt like he was blowing me off.
A week went by without any contact.. So I decided to text him again. I said “Hey. So I have to ask, did you change your mind or something? It’s okay if you did, I’m not mad. I just wanted to know what happened.”
And he said that he didn’t change his mind, but that he “had a lot going on at the moment”. So I told him that it was okay, and to let me know when he had some free time to hang out. He said “I’m sorry I’ve been distant” and I told him that he didn’t have to apologize. But he never texted me back. He hasn’t texted me since.
Now it’s been a total of 11 days since he asked me to be his girlfriend. And we’ve barely said anything to each other. So I’m pretty sure it’s over before it’s even began.
- You should ask him about it.Vote A
- You should just leave him alone.Vote B
- I dont know, I just want to see the poll results.Vote C
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I find it interesting that most girls voted to leave him alone. It seems the majority expect if doesn't make the first move or confide then he's just not interested or willing to discuss his feelings. NOT TRUE. I may not be Mr average but this is exactly what I would hate in this situation. There's every chance he's scared of putting you off or involving you when he's in a bad place.
This, as bad as it may seem is an opportunity to show how much you care and want to help this guy. The fact this bothers you shows you are a very kind person and you do want to help! Despite his situation, these are very attractive qualities in a woman, not to mention having someone to talk to may actually help him!
If he does say to you he needs time alone then that's a different matter. But I think the opposite way. Show him you care and are there for him and be quite insistent about finding out what's wrong. If he's in grief he won't be thinking straight so a little help from you may make you the light at the end of his tunnel.
Relationships aren't things that happen with no effort, sometimes you need to be the one chasing him, even if he is a man and you may expect the opposite.2
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