My fiancee even though we are engaged still always puts his family of origin wants and needs first. How should I approach him when I talk to him in saying that my wants and needs should come first more often now that we are engaged?
Family of origin coming before fiancée?
What Guys Said 2
You are becoming his family and his lifelong partner. If he does not see it this way, then yes, you have some talking to do.1
What Girls Said 2
If I dated a guy. Our families need to get along, I also want to be part of his family also. Maybe try involving yourself more into the family and maybe he'll see you are becoming family tto, so he should treat you equally. What kind of needs? You should come first in certain situations. He should respect you and your needs too. Now that you are engaged you too have to share a life together. So make sure he knows to include you in every aspect in his life. Your technically family once you elope, so he needs to know that you deserve to be treated the same as well. Just talk to him and make sure he knows how left out you feel and as the fiancee you should be given most of the attention while wedding planning. No one can come in between family, but you can be with your family and still let go and have your own life. Best of luck and hope everything works out!0
Maybe he just wants to give a gratitude with his family by helping them back.. Why don't you support him and love his family.. If he can balance his life with you and his family, there's nothing wrong with that...
But if he is the bread winner who belongs to codependent family, and his family tries to control him in his decision-making about your relationship, that's another story..0
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