I've been talking to a guy that I've known for a little while now. Everything was going great. We were hanging out and talking to each other a lot. One day things got intimate between us and we ended up having sex. Afterwards he still kept talking to me, nothing changed. A few days later it was night time and he asked me if I could spend the night. I told him that we could see each other the next day because I normally don't spend the night at a guy's house unless we're in a relationship and that I don't want to be used as a bootycall or anything like that. And he said his ex kept coming over his house unannounced. I didn't want to be over there and she came by or something. Ever since that day he seems different. Like I have a feeling that he's upset that I didn't spend the night. I hear from him less. I know we had sex already but I felt like if he wants to have me spend the night then we should be in a relationship and I like him so I want to be sure that I'm not a friend with benefits. I told him this and he said he's not mad and that he understands. But I feel like he's upset and he has been communicating less. I haven't seen him in a week. I asked was he ok or if he didn't want to talk to me and he said he's just been really busy. I'm scared that he's just going to disappear and not want to see me anymore. I don't know if I'm starting to panic or if it's possible that he's not into me anymore. I don't know what to do. Should I stop texting and calling him?
Is he upset with me because I didn't spend the night? What should I do?
What Guys Said 2
You're already his booty call. If you don't want to be one, then don't have sex with a man until you're in a relationship. I don't understand why that's such a difficult concept for some women to understand.0
What Girls Said 1
If -and IF- he is not interested in you just because of that one night you didn't sleep with him, then he definitely doesn't deserve your attention and, as you said yourself, you don't want to be a friend with benefits which is just exactly what he'd be looking for IF he is actually mad. I'd wait a little longer, though, to see how things turn out because it's still very recent. Don't be pushy and try not to think too much about it cause, as I said, if it doesn't work out later, he wasn't worth it.0
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