Am dating this guy for 2years now... He used to call me everyday and we would text everyday about all sorts of things but right now everything has just changed he doesn't call anymore he doesn't text like he used to... Back then he would reply right after I send these days it takes him almost half an hour for him to reply... So am confused is it me or is there another girl
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It's called getting comfortable in a relationship. Not everyday will be the same as the day you first met. after two years you guys are coming off the honeymoon phase, and believe it or not, the real relationship is starting. neither of you are blinded by impulsive lust, or obsession. After two years you both should be much more secure and trusting in your relationship. Early in the relationship both sides feel as though they must do everything they can to impress and maintain their mate. Including responding to texts ASAP, even when that means doing it in work meetings, under the table in class, and other times when it really shouldn't be done. After two years you both should be at a point where it's like "hey, I trust my partner and this relationship enough to the point where If they don't respond instantly, it doesn't mean they hate me and have found a new love." There are other things in life we NEED to focus on in order to get where we want to be.
Being in a relationship does not make two people one. Each person is still an individual and has individual goals. Being in a relationship is about supporting eachother when they need support and sharing success and the highest highs when they are achieved. As such, there has to come a point where you can be comfortable enough to be able to focus on what you need to get done without worrying about the relationship.
If you're goal is to pass final exams, and you know you need to crack down and study, but your boyfriend is texting you every second wondering why you're not replying, and asking if you're cheating him would that bother you? I know thats not exactly what's going on, but you do get the point right?
Him being comfortable enough, and trusting enough to be able to focus on his goals in life without needing to feel he has to text you instantly really is a testament to how great your relationship is going.
Please don't worry needlessly0