For someone who has ADHD and is an introvert, is it normal for them to be disconnected in a relationship?
I feel like he has total control over when we do or do not talk. If I text him, I don't look for a reply because nine times out of ten I don't get one. If I call, I don't expect a call back or even an answer because, again, nine times out of ten I don't get one.
Yet I am happy with him... I just feel disconnected.
Is this normal? Advice? Someone help me, lol, I am driving myself up a wall in thoughts.
Most Helpful Guy
How can you feel disconnected and yet happy? I don't understand.
I am an introvert but I don't have ADHD and as much as I like my alone time, I also enjoy social interaction and I always reply to text messages and answer phone calls if I know the number. I would enjoy spending plenty of time with my woman. She'd just have accept that social interaction takes a lot out of me and I need time to recharge the batteries, gather and contemplate my thoughts and then I'm ready to socialise again.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
I was in this exact same situation with my ex. I for one am a moderate extrovert while he was an extreme introvert. I hated how he never wanted to go anywhere with me or do anything fun like go to the pub! After awhile, I realized that other guys thought I was single because he was never around, and that they were into me. I went 2 weeks without talking to him first- we had the same communication, he always had control over when we talked- and he finally started talking to me again, after 2 whole weeks! I was fed up and broke up with him that day (after 2 years!) I realized that I did not mesh well with his personality.
Give it time. If you really love him it can work- but you have to be understanding of how he is. Try talking to him about how much it affects you, say you wish you could see him more and see how he reacts. If this bugs you as much as it bothered me, it might not work out - but you'll always find a new man!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE