I have some male friends and they come appear to be the most amazing boyfriends ever, they support and provide for their girls in every way possible but behind their backs they talk shit about them and cheat emotionally some even physically and their girls think they have the perfect man. I don't support this and I have lost faith in the male race because of this. I have had guys in the past tell me things like personal things their girl does and I'm even like "how can you tell me that" cos i would be pissed if my man done that. They even say they love two people at the same time etc it's just too much. It's like the secret life of some men and now I have trust issues and scared to get in deep with any guy. Do you have any advice for me?
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I have a lot of guy friends myself and I'll admit being one of the boys puts me in the position of hearing some things I find less than attractive about men and probably would bother me if I knew a boyfriend was saying it about me.
But here's the thing- when I'm with my girl friends, we can say some rather rude things about men and vent about our boyfriends too. You go to your girls to bitch with the understanding that it's not going to be repeated and that you don't necessarily feel that way all the time about your guy, you just need to blow off steam now and again. And we talk about sex and our boyfriends in ways I certainly would never do in mixed company.
I figure when I'm with the guys and they vent about their girlfriends or relate sexual conquests, it's just them blowing off steam. I always say I just don't want to know about it or be present if a guy I'm dating feels the need for story time- just like he'd probably be mortified if he was around for girl talk...
The cheating, well, that's a different story altogether. I can understand you losing faith in men over that.4