My boyfriend wants to know the furtherest I've ever gone and I'm not comfortable telling him but he won't drop it, what do I do?
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You aren't obligated to tell him, but I feel like it's not really healthy long-term for a relationship if you continue to generally be unwilling to share private information about yourself with a partner (I mean, if you can't even share basic information like that with your boyfriend, then what kind of genuine friendship is that underlying the partnership?) ... if it's a habit not to tell him things, it will leave him guessing, wondering, and could leave him feeling a bit like you don't regard him as close, and like he can't 'reach you' or share private things with you.
On the other hand, you are still very young and only been together a month, so give the relationship more time. Maybe tell him something like you will tell him in a few months time, once you've been together longer.
Maybe it's because I'm older also but I would find it off-putting if my girlfriend wouldn't share information like that. I'm not saying she's obligated to, just that I would feel like mentally she didn't regard me as a 'close confidant', and thus probably isn't really mentally full engaged in having a proper relationship.1