I have been dating a guy for a couple of weeks and things felt like they where getting serious. we spent almost every day together and our dates have been long and wonderful. he's taken me
On many dates which no other guy has cared enough to think about taking me on and I feel as if we could talk about anything together. he even took me on a date to meet his mum on her bfs boat on a day trip to some islands. thing is we had a chat recently about where we where at and he's told me that he really really like me but he isn't ready for a relationship. he told me he wants to keep seeing me because he really enjoys my company and I'm such a great chick. He came out o relationship recently where his ex cheated on him and is using emotional blackmail to pressure him into taking her back. she cut her wrists and showed up at his door crying asking him for permission to kill herself. she was also very controlling and needy in the relationship and he is worried about that happening again. he said he knows I'm not like that because I seem very different and independent but he wants to be sure. he said he wishes he had met me in a few months when he would have been ready because he would have snapped me up. he also said he could be ready later on but can't promise me anything.. Is he worth sticking around for, do guys ever change their minds or should I just move on. i have not slept with him yet but would doing so be a bad idea? I really like this guy.
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DON'T!!! FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING BRIGHT AND BEAUTIFUL, DON'T!!!
I speak from experience (not with sex, but with physical intimacy). The closer you get physically, the closer you'll become emotionally. You can't help it. If you do and things don't work out, it WILL hurt much, MUCH more than if you'd waited to see how things go. You don't sleep with him, worst case scenario is that he can't commit, and you think, crap. Now I'll never see him naked! You DO sleep with him, worst case scenario (other than crazy ex finding out and committing suicide) is that he can't commit, things break off, and after given a piece of yourself physically and emotionally to him, it's thrown away. It feels like it's for nothing.
I don't know if I really regret ALL of the kisses with my ex-girlfriend, but I definitely regret some of the words I've said, some of the kisses I gave her, the times I held her, because things didn't work out, and now it feels like that was all wasted on her. At the very least, I should have saved all of that for someone who was more compatible and with whom I could have a successful, close relationship.0