I am currently unemployed for the first time in 5 years. I got laid off in October and have since moved to a new city with no contacts, and have been trying to get set up in my new location.
I am pretty good looking, smart, funny, few issues, and not an ego maniac. I have been out on about 4 dates since moving here, and have made a friends with benefits. The friends with benefits is what it is, but I am looking for a real connection with someone, and on each of the dates with the other women, when the topic of my employment comes up, it kills it. I can see that it is a big issue!
I make it clear that I have just moved, I have savings to get me through, I am working to get new employment, and that I am skilled and talented at what I do professionally. But still, I can see that it is a loaded question "what do you do for a living?"
Anyway, griping about women being "gold-diggers" is as old as time, and I'm not interested in doing that. But this is real. I can see it plain as day in their faces when I tell them that I am currently unemployed, even if it is clear that I am no loser.
Here's my question: Why, in today's age of birth-control and two income households, is male income a make-it-or-break-it factor in new relationships?
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In my opinion anyone can be a gold digger and I will question the motives of why an unemployed man wants to enter a relationship whether he has savings or not. You should be financially stable so I can feel secure that you won't be mooching off of me and long term if we can make financial decisions together or if I will always get the short end of the stick. So its not about what a man an do for me with his money its about if he can support himself and if we end up together in the long wrong how well he can manage money. As a person who has been targeted by a gold digging man, my antennas are so far up that they are in the clouds.0