This girl and I have been very good friends for over a year now and a couple weeks ago we hung out at her place (watching Netflix, eating food, singing karaoke, and just being in each other's company). She and I had never hung out together alone before that day (she always had her friends around), and the reason why I had asked her if she wanted to spend the day together was because I wanted her to see how well I would treat her so that way when I ask her out on a real date, she would be more inclined to say yes. At the end of the day I asked her out, and she said that she had just gotten out of a relationship (I did not even know she was in one) and that she wasn't ready to get into another one. I told her that I was okay with that, and everything seemed fine.
Since that day, however, she would either ignore me or barely talk to me every time I contacted her. I don't bomb her with messages nor do I message her every day, only once every few days, but the results have been the same. I have a horrible habit of overthinking things, and I don't want to assume this as something that it's not. She's still in school (I graduated last year), and I know that she just had her midterms/finals, so she might have been just too stressed and preoccupied to talk to me. I've read some girls' opinions on this site in regards of what they usually do when a guy likes them and they don't like him back, and most of them have said that they would give an excuse and then fall back from the guy until he got over her.
Could this be what she's doing? I REALLY like her, and I don't know whether or not she's not talking to me because she's too busy or if she's doing this intentionally and I would like some insight from girls who have done this, or guys who have gone through this. Am I worrying too much about nothing, or is this a sign that I should just give up and move on?
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I’m honestly not sure. These days you can’t actually tell a guy that you are genuinely not interested in him without him getting all whiny and throwing a pity party while he decides to stay stuck in some silly ‘friend zone’. I
’m in the same exact situation as the girl you describe: I just got out of a rough relationship and there are a couple of guys, whom I’m only interested in being friends with, who just keep trying to pry and push for something more. To be totally honest, it’s a pain in the butt. It’s SO annoying when they try to flirt or whenever they talk about us hanging out they try to make it sound like a date -_- There could be potential for a friendship there, but some guys just put pressure to make it something else and it’s so aggravating. I’m actually doing the same exact thing she’s doing because I want these guys to back off and stop being interested in me. The direct approach seems to just make things awkward so I’m hoping that if I ignore them enough, they’ll take a hint and either find someone else or just lose interest in me romantically.1