I've been seeing this girl for a couple months.
We get along well and have fun.
We see each other 2 or 3 times per month, text a couple times per week tops.
Recently she changed her behavior a lot and I don't like it.
She's texting me everyday and the conversation is getting more and more shallow over time, witch I hate.
When she got to leave my place for any reason (as in I have to go to work) she gives me a hard time saying that I'm kicking her out and stuff like that, and last time she got me 30 min late for work (witch's totally acceptable at my company, but stills)
She wants to come over more often. But from the very beginning I told her that I'm a busy man and don't have much free time, so we wouldn't be able to see each other much frequently.
Today she sent me this long and thoughtful message, with lots of lovely compliments, thanking me for some stuff that I helped her with (she got dropped out from the room she was renting and kinda panicked. I asked her to crash in my place for a couple day's, meanwhile I found a new one for her) and saying she wants me to be in her life for long.
What's on my head and heart:
I don't see myself in a serious relationship before seeing someone for at least five months or so...
At first I thought it could possibly lead to a serious relationship, but since those changes I'm thinking that it might not be possible.
I don't mind being completely honest, but I don't like hurting peoples feelings.
I'm 31, she's 23, and I'm not used to date younger girls.
This most recent message made me feel really good towards her emotionally, yet made me think that she might be even less aware of our situation than I thought before. (Or maybe she just thought it could "fix thinks up"?)
I'm afraid that if she doesn't get her s#!† together I will stop seeing her. I've been giving signals to her on the issue.
So... how do you guys think I should deal with the situation? And why?
- Drop herVote A
- Give it some timeVote B
- Give her more signals to readVote C
- Talk to her smoothlyVote D
- Talk to her straight upVote E
Most Helpful Girl
I think... she warmed up to you and is being affectionate in her way. And that seems to be annoying you. If you aren't the type to like affection and closeness, you should leave her now. The worst thing you can do to someone affectionate is push them away and teach them to be unaffectionate.2
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