So I met this girl online and we traded emails back and forth before deciding to meet up for a date. (On the emails, she seemed really cute, energetic, and kept checking my profile. I also have very accurate recent photos) I chose the restaurant and we met after work. Since she works close to the area, we met right after she was off work. From the get go, I felt that things were a bit "off" First, as soon as I met her, she shook my hand like I was approaching her for a interview.
Once we were seated, our conversation was really bland and banal. We ordered and chatted a bit but I didn't feel any fireworks going off. She did mention some things about the future of meeting her friends, we spoke about families, work, had some things in common and whatnot. She just didn't seem all that enthused and there were times of awkward silences.
After dinner, we split desert and she wanted to pay half but I insisted on paying. After dinner, I insisted on walking her back to her car but she said "It's ok, you don't have to, it just right there." I told her I would feel better walking her to her car and she smiled before saying ok. As soon as we got to her car, we kind of awkwardly stood there for about a minute before I blurted out "drive safe." She just kinda looked at me and said "Um, Thank you for dinner, it was nice meeting you."
The dinner date lasted about 2 hours or so but something about this whole thing is upsetting because I'm not sure if it was her or me that didn't put in the effort. I felt like she wasn't all that interested so I started to lose interest. By the time the date was over, I didn't ask for her number or ask her for a second date because I wasn't sure if she was interested and I wasn't sure if I actually wanted to see her again. She's attractive, intelligent, down to earth and boring.
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I honestly feel that people in online dating overall have no social skills whatsoever. I have noticed this with a lot of the girls online. They are boring as hell and the ones who can talk tend to just be egotistical and want to brag about how many guys message them for sex like it is a good thing.
Overall, I'd you can hold a good conversation, and do your best to get rid of those awkward silences, you can brush off these silent dates and let it be.
Also, I think you shouldn't text and email a lot before these dates. If the girl insists on emailing a lot before meeting you, she is preventing you from having something to talk about at the date itself. If you go on a date after emailing and texting so much, you have all their background but you didn't get to share your story in person. Plus, when you email a ton, you mistakenly build up an idea of who you think you're emailing and then when you show up, you find out they are nothing like who you thought they were. Keep in touch, but don't get into your personal lives. Save that for the meets.
Overall, consider it just a stale date.0