my boyfriend lately has been having a lot of negative thoughts, and his been feeling really low in confidence! and i feel like his not letting me in.. what advice would to give me to help?
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I've been stuggling with self confidence all my life, though for the most part im too determined to give in. But we're all different. The best thing I can think of is to just be there. Ask him how he's doing what's bothering him, treat him lik he matters. don't agree or offer advice if he asks if you agree tell him you don't know. or if its how someone is treating him encourage him to find his own happiness to speak up for himself. or maybe just to change circumstances. its important that he lets go entirely so he shouldn't seek reasons to change circumstances. These types of problems require a desire to find the things that make you happy. Sometime its different friends sometimes jobs. And if its something you can't control than you have to sit with the emotions that are being brought up and express them. Most of it should be sadness. For along time i've avoided the desire to cry because it wasn't manly and yet allowing myself the freedom to express these emotions has saved me from a lot of self hate. I can't say I know what he's going through but I can tell you that until 6 months ago I was extremely suicidal. After having lost 2 friends to the same thing. he should deifinately try to get i n touch with his emotions. those will definitely tell him whats wrong then he simply has to follow his heart. But this is all entirely up to him all you can do is support and love him while these things come to the surface. I hope this helps0