So im 30, never had sex, never had a relationship last longer than 3 weeks. It really sucks and I'm super lonely. I started working at this place about 6 months ago and this girl that worked there started flirting with me. We ended up going out a few times but then she said she didn't want a relationship. I tried to just move on even though I was really hurt but she would keep texting, calling etc for a while and then she just stopped that. I really don't know what to do, it seems like I always get to the same place with girls and then get friend zoned. Its happened a lot, I was overweight but I made a effort to get in better shape, i did, I'm dressing better, really trying, but it always seems to get me to the same place. I feel hopeless. What can I do to stop getting friend zoned
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The friend zone isn't bad. Maybe it is for hermits like myself, but for normal people, making friends is good. Why are you upset that a woman wanted to be your friend? Think about that. Don't almost all social circles start with friendship?
To meet more girls you have to know more people and get involved. She might not have been the one for you, but she might know people. Heck, you two might have had a friend's night out at the bar and you could have met someone. She could have helped you meet someone as a friend. Doesn't this all sound like a winning formula?
By swinging for the fences when you're out of your depth (due to bad looks/bad personality), you're going to be disappointed and your face will show it. Start small and make friends with girls. That's how you'll get out of this.2