Here's the scenario...we have been together for four years...this past year has been long distance as she is in another city....she left for a better job and it is/was a good move for her. Our original plan was for me to stay here for another year and then join her there (financial obligations on my part)...it's a possible but not definite chance that I will get a job there and it has me concerned. Right now I have a pretty lucrative position and really hate to give it up.
I'm feeling torn between wanting to be with her and wanting to have my cushy job...thinking this way makes me wonder if I really want to be with her. The thought of not being with her hurts....and I know that if I change my mind it will hurt her deeply....and may lead to us parting ways. Am I being a schmuck here with the decision to stay or go?
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Is there any way to see each other while maintaining the status quo? How difficult is it to see her now? You could maintain the long distance relationship. It sounds like you have a good job; one that you don't just want to just throw away. What's her job like? Is it stable? Couldn't she get a better job where you're at? Does she make much money? If you moved there to be with her, and committed to her, could you live off of her salary if you couldn't get a job right away? Would she want to? I think the only way to resolve this, if you two are committed to each other, is to go where the best employment opportunities are, for both of you!0