so this guy and I were in a flirtationship for a year and practically a couple. At the end of that year he kissed me, I asked what it all meant? He said he didn't want to take things further. Not because he doesn't like me or because he doesn't think he can love me but because he didn't want it, because he didn't see a future. Doesn't that basically mean he didn't really like me? Anyway, he invested a year into our whatevership. He would drive across country to see me, send me flowers, make plans, talk every day, tell me he loves me every day, etc.. but when it came down to commitment.. he backed off. So we tried to be friends and I of course didn't want it, after a month he came to the same party as me because he heard I would be there. Later admitting he came to see me so "we can be friends again". Failed plan of course, 2 months after that I reached out because i missed him too much and we became friends for 2 months. I of course realised I was settling for peanuts and he was being careful about not flirting and trying to maintain friendship (but still making sure to talk to me every day). I ended our friendship again and haven't spoken to him ever since, after telling him he was a jerk to me (for certain things he said and the way he handled them). Its his birthday soon and I'm not messaging him. He did say before I say goodbye that he will miss me and hopes I change my mind some day. Ehhh he was the one who rejected me after using me and leading me on for a year to only admit he actually didn't want anything serious. if he respected our friendship, he would never crossed the boundary of friendship and more. So I will see him at uni in a few months and I intend on ignoring him but I don't get him? Did he ever like me? Why did he let go of something he himself said was so amazing and a great connection? or if otherwise, why did he use me? Why did he want to be friends after he decided i wasn't worth the effort? HELP!
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He's a secret agent!
Well maybe not, but what I do think is that his life is just too busy to have a relationship at this point, that or he's just too self-righteous and afraid of breakups and just assumes that no matter what every relationship he has will end badly. No matter the case, it sounds like he really doesn't want a relationship at this time, there may be extenuating circumstances that he hasn't told you about. I would just try to remain friendly towards him, if you want any kind of whatevership, just stick to friendship for now.0
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