So if you confess your feelings to someone of the opposite gender (or same gender, if you're homosexual) who is single, but they reject you, does it always mean they believe you're not good enough for them even though they may not admit it? 'Not good enough' may mean in terms of looks, wealth, education or anything else.
I'm referring to outright and permanent rejections here, and not the cases where the other person says he/she is not ready for a relationship at that point or asks for some time to think.
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I don't really think of it in terms of "not good enough", because it implies that there's something wrong with the person, when oftentimes, it's just that the person doesn't see them as a good match, or whatever. I don't think "I don't think we'd be compatible" is the same as "you're not good enough for me".
It also implies that I think I'm better than them, which isn't the case.
I mean, there are movie stars who I would reject because they're not my type, despite the fact that tons of women find them attractive, they're rich and successful, and all that. But it would seem kind of ridiculous to say "Ryan Gosling (or whoever) isn't good enough for me", wouldn't it?
I'd probably reject a complete stranger if he asked me out, not because he's "not good enough" (since I don't even know him), but because I don't feel that comfortable going out with someone I don't know at all.
I'd also reject people if I'm in a relationship already, which has nothing to do with how "good" they are.0
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