I feel like once I have a gf I may overboard. I will want to compliment and show affection all the time. Always wanting to hug,hold, cuddle and kiss her. Is there a point where it's too much. If so will she tell me? Is having her initiate everything a good way to avoid this? Also I would tell her that she would need to initiate and why.
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Yes, it would be an issue to me. I don't want to be smothered. Less is more. Obviously you shouldn't neglect her, but neither should you shower her with compliments and affection. Find a nice balance. Compliments especially annoy me when I receive them 24/7, because then they feel less genuine and special. I like receiving compliments a lot more when they're original and when I don't get them that much - hence feeling more genuine/special. As for affection, as long as I get to have my own space and as long as I don't feel like the guy is constantly touching me in some way, I'm ok.
"Is having her initiate everything a good way to avoid this?"
NO. It should be 50/50. If you never initiate anything, it'll make her feel neglected and unwanted. It'll make her feel like the relationship is one-sided and that she's the only one putting any effort into it. The both of you should put effort into initiating, AND give each other some room to initiate too. If you always initiate everything, she'll never get the chance to initiate and vice versa. Some girls can be really shy though, so it can be good to tell them that it's ok to initiate. A lot of shy people hesitate to initiate because they don't want to come off as being desperate/clingy. But if you let her know that it's ok and that you'd like it, it probably will encourage her.1