now im wondering, if this can happen to women as well? Im sure it does happen but how common is it for women to lose interest in a guy if they have sex to early before an emotional connection has been established?
On one hand i have heard that ocytocin will make a woman like a guy more after sleeping with him, but most girls who are old enough are probably aware of that effect and can control it.
Some girls are only interested in a hookup from the beginning, so they might leave after sleeping with a guy on the first date, so they dont get feelings for him to early when they dont know if the guy would be willing to date them.
Those things makes sense, but do girls also sometimes lose interest and attraction to a guy they where initially very attracted to if they have sex to early?
Most Helpful Girl
OK, this is going to be unpopular but here it goes.
It is a double standard. It isn't right, necessarily, but it is present.
A girl is expected to "put up a fight.". She is " supposed" to resist sex early on. If she sleeps with someone too soon, she runs a risk of him losing respect for her or mentally pulling her out of the dating file and pushing her into ONS status, f**ck buddy or friends with benefits . So the standard says, anyway.
A guy, however, is "expected" to try to have sex as early on as possible. If he succeeds, he is applauded by today's society. Ironically, the same guys seducing the females usually state they want a girl who hasn't been around; crazy, yes?
I am not sure girls think less of guys who sleep with them early on since that is "socially acceptable" male behavior. It is "known" that guys are sex driven and ready to roll 24/7.
My best advice to both parties is to try to know each other mentally before knowing them physically. It isn't that darn hard to keep your zippers up for a date or two IF you desire more. Then, these doubts disappear and you can be pretty sure you both want something a little more IF that is what you want.
If all you want is casual or ONS, don't change the rules by discovering you like them... if you had taken a few dates first you might have already known that (and realized s/he didn't) and wouldn't set yourself up for heartache. You can't go back and undo it, so there is that potential pitfall.
If all you really really want is physical release, go for it whenever you want and don't worry about what the other party thinks.
Double standards exist whether we want to believe it or not, and whether we agree with them or not. Reality is what you choose to do and how comfortable you may be with other people's perception of your actions.
Before the down vote fest begins, note that I put quotes around the things that I don't necessarily believe in, however that doesn't change society's perception of these things.
Most Helpful Guy
all the questions on this site are girls wanting to get their fuckbuddies to commit or how the guy they hooked up with never called back. Meanwhile guys are trying to get their female friends to want to have sex with them.
So to me it seems like girls fall in love with their casual partners/hookups fairly often. Also it seems that guys get screwed by waiting too long for sex and that girls get screwed by having sex too soon :/
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