Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, I had a crush on a girl for over 2 years in high school. At first I was just embarrassed about accidentally giving away that I liked her, then I talked with her minimally, and then I was paranoid about seeming like a creeper for not following through, and any attempt later on would make me look lame. I kind of have the same thing now because I want to hang out with this girl I was friends with a few years ago, but I haven't made an effort to hang out with her in a long time. I'd rather just pretend I'm not interested than be judged for not taking initiative, and sometimes that's the reason for not taking initiative. It's a terrible trap to get into.
Most Helpful Girl
I do that sometimes, especially if that guy is like "out of my league" or have a lot of female friends, I would feel like there is no chance and I would be wasting my time so even if that guy talks to me I will avoid him to avoid getting hurt.